About Conscious Choices
Where transformation begins with responsibility, not blame.
Conflict never exists in a vacuum. It echoes into every part of life: as a partner, parent, leader, or creator. The patterns we repeat in private shape the tone of our homes, our work, and our well-being.
At Conscious Choices, I work with individuals and couples who are ready to stop cycling through the same arguments, roles, and relational pain. This work is not about assigning blame or finding a quick fix. It’s about revealing the deeper emotional, relational, and psychological patterns that have quietly shaped your world.
With the right therapeutic support, you can:
- Identify and release outdated coping strategies
- Learn to respond instead of react
- Understand the roots of your emotional triggers
- Create real, sustainable shifts in how you relate — to yourself and others
But this work requires something powerful from you: A willingness to look inward.
To ask not just “What’s wrong with them?” but “What’s asking to change in me?”
This space is for you if you are:
- Ready to take ownership of your part in relational patterns
- Open to being gently but truthfully challenged
- Interested in meaningful change, not just temporary relief
- Willing to explore your interior world, not just narrate the external one
This space is not for you if:
- You’re looking to use therapy to “fix” your partner
- You’re unwilling to reflect on your own role in recurring conflict
- You’re not open to receiving honest feedback from a place of care and clarity
The ripple effects of unresolved pain can spread far but so can the ripple effects of deep, conscious growth.
If you’re ready to meet yourself with truth, compassion, and courage, I’m here to hold the mirror.
I work best with those who bring mental clarity, strategic thinking, and ambition to the table and are ready to match it with emotional insight, relational maturity, and conscious self-responsibility.
The Power of Systems Awareness
At the heart of my work is a deep respect for Systems Theory:
the idea that no one operates in isolation, especially in families, partnerships, or teams.
When one person is caught in a reactive or unresolved pattern, it affects the whole.
But the reverse is also true: when one person grows, the system begins to shift.
My clients don’t come here to “fix” their relationships.
They come here to understand the patterns they’ve been a part of
and to choose a more conscious way of listening, communicating, and being.
This is collaborative work.
I don’t offer surface strategies. I hold a space for you to do the honest, sometimes uncomfortable work of change.
And when you begin to reclaim your power, regulate your emotions, and take responsibility for your impact everything around you starts to transform.
Awareness as a Strategy for Success
Emotional Intelligence as a Mirror, Not a Measurement
I believe that awareness is the foundation of meaningful change and that includes emotional awareness.
Many clients at Conscious Choices begin their journey with a comprehensive Emotional Intelligence (EQ-i 2.0) assessment. Not to be graded. Not to be judged. But to bring clear, compassionate insight to the relational and internal patterns that quietly shape everything from conflict style and communication to stress response and boundary setting.
Together, we use this tool not as a diagnosis, but as a mirror: to illuminate strengths, surface areas of struggle, and support the growth of skills like:
- Assertiveness without reactivity
- Empathy without enmeshment
- Optimism rooted in reality
- Stress tolerance grounded in nervous system regulation
The goal is not faster results. The goal is deeper resonance with your own emotional truth and the ability to live and relate from that place more consistently.
When clients are willing to engage with this level of honesty, the shifts are often profound.
What Roberta’s Clients Say
“It is with appreciation and gratitude that I want to thank you! Your generosity and skillful help put me on the road to self-discovery.”
“I met you during a difficult moment in my life and you helped give me perspective, open my horizons and give me a better sense of the issues that arose. I’m a different person now and feel freer, more self-reliant, closer to my family and my wife and more in tune with my surroundings.”
“Your caring, love and concern have really meant a lot over the last couple years. Your professional abilities really helped me to get started working through my stuff. You’ve been my “rock” in a very difficult time in my life.”
“I want to thank you for being the caring human being that you are and I feel you are truly gifted as a healer. I would highly recommend anyone to talk to you in a time of need or simply for reassurance to see life’s possibilities.”
“Thank you for your continued support and guidance. I am proud of my progress and feel blessed to have found you.”
“So happy you are a part of our lives. We are blessed. Thank you.”
“Thank you so much for walking with me during that rugged passage. I am processing all my inner stuff. I love you and am grateful to you.”
“You, BY FAR, are the best therapist I have ever talked to. I am lucky to have found you. I always, always think of our conversations. Roberta, you are an excellent teacher and someone to look up to.”